WDR-documentary shows how porn is changing sexuality of our children
Kids look at porn. It is often only by chance, then deliberately and eventually it becomes a habit, because there is no reasonable protection. Psychologists fear: “at some point, the bar is so high that real life has little Chance.”
"I think I’m coming every second, third day in Verbindung", the 14-year-old schoolgirl Keira in the WDR-Reportage says “The Story – When kids look at porn”. Her Friends nod in agreement. You are with your experiences not alone. A study by the University of Hohenheim and Münster in Germany has found out that every Second of the 14 – to 20-Year-olds who were surveyed, has seen a Hardcore Porn.
For their study, the researchers surveyed 1048 young people. The average age at which they have first contact with sexually explicit content, is, therefore, at 14.2 years, with boys 14.0 years are significantly younger than girls (14.8 years). The study results showed that the children at the initial point of contact will always be younger. And: young to use the Online services more often than girls.
The first contact takes place, the majority of the home. In 40 percent of cases, the young people are not alone when the first Time you see pornographic pictures or movies, but you can do this with friends.
The kids must use what they see, process it mostly alone
Half of the children happen to be on one page, others are driven by curiosity. Kira says: "I was nine or ten." What you saw is a scene "with a police officer and as an old guy in the Gefängnis". What have you thought, what you saw there? "I will never do that." Your friend, Kathi saw the first Porn by accident. "I was once verwirrt", she says, "I didn’t know what I soll" start;. They kept it for themselves.
"Children and young people understand faced with something you want to neither see nor correct. Because the media happens to use often secretly, to children and young people zurechtkommen" with the processing of this content alone and without parental or school influence;, study leader Thorsten Quandt from the Institute for communication science of the University of Münster is concerned.
"Youth protection on the Internet does not work even gut"
Porn providers in Germany must ensure that children and young people have access to the content, so porn fans, need to have your driver’s license or passport data. Therefore, the detour leads over foreign pages where the Videos are.
The German Provider have any responsibility. "Youth protection on the Internet does not work even gut", Bettina Wiesmann confirmed by the Bundestag Committee for family Affairs, senior citizens, women and youth. "Our legal framework allows far no sufficiently good against Wehr." Your solution: mandatory youth protection filter. But also have their limits. Because they no longer work on Apps or Social Media content.
A Porn in between as a reward
But what happens with the children, the see with 12, 13, 14, or even in the primary school age porn? "The child is in the adolescence are in a stage in which the brain makes a ripening boost. That is, children and young people are more willing to take risks, able to assess dangers and are accessible for strong Reize", sex therapist Heike Melzer explains.
In everyday life, if the school does not make problems, the parents understand that homework has to be done, then a little Porn is used in between as a distraction and reward for learning vocabulary. "Because it makes on the one hand pleasure and on the other side, and in part so absurd. And at some point it is a habit."
Sex educator, Reinhard Brand, has registered a certain degree of coarsening in the handling in the primary school. A lot of porn terms were now already in the fourth grade, he had heard a few years ago it was only in the sixth. "This is definitely a sign that the children have a need to talk about it. And that they are not alone with your fantasies and ideas for adult sexuality." It used to be "Petting", it was used for affection among young people, will not hear this term at all. Instead, " conquer;Gangbang", "Cumshot" or "Bukkake" the language of the youth. A coarsening and the reduction of sexuality to notions of Porn-machinery. They are also used in the search masks on Porn sites.
Moaning, pure-banging, cum – understanding fourth graders under sexuality
"Long before you earn yourself physical experiences with another Person, you have already seen and experienced everything in the head. And this word Petting, often on it, it no longer exists today, at all,“ says sex educator Brand, as he looks at a poster on which he has listed the terms that collected the fourth graders on the topic of Sex. Instead, there "stöhnen", "reinbangen", "Sperma". He asks how the children of today to imagine, as a sexual initiation before the could go: "You ring a bell at the door as the post man in Porn, and Presto, one is in bed?"
The Landauer teacher Ursula Klein has done Porn. "It is a topic that you must address. Since you can’t tell, since I look away. It is, and if I don’t talk about it, then it remains in place. Then the students are left with their Fears and their ideas alone." With the teaching material "Lets talk about Porno" she’s talking to her 10. Class. The students should work out the difference between pornography and love and partnership. 
WDR The Story (Screenshot) words for love, sexuality, and Porn – and this is the aim of the education in the classroom.
Porn increases the Performance pressure
For many, the topic approach is a great Unknown, as a result of porn consumption is even greater. Guys compare their penis size with that of the porn stars, girls that are insecure, whether Oral and anal sex for the first Time. Student Kira realizes that the porn consumer unconsciously pressure is built up. "Not so much because of the Umsetzung", she says, but do not meet the perfect ideal Woman, ready for you to Worry: "Since everything is shown. Around the bottom is perfect, perfect Tits, not hanging down. As far as the presses a bit." She is also aware that it takes over from the porn for a certain role: the man must be dominant, the woman is less.
This Performance pressure, as the psychologists call it. "The images are imprinted, even if we know that the faked ist", Heike Melzer says. The result: optimization to develop thoughts instead of your own fantasies. There is the danger of " was;that the bar is so high that the Real Life departure, however, and hardly a Chance hat". Then you end up with 20 years in therapists with erectile dysfunction or swallow Viagra.
In Germany, there are 500,000 of Porn and Sex addicts
And then the Addiction is still there. The Student Bernhard Stephan tells how he is looking for his Porn in front of the family secret. He did so, he would play Online Games on the mobile phone- in fact he looked at porn. "Sometimes even if my brother was in the room that I have my room divided." In the 9. Class Bernhard Stephan had a girlfriend. He actually wanted to watch other women more. "I didn’t make it but stop."
In the 11. Class, he went for half a year in the United States. Again, a good opportunity to stop. However, after two months, he looks at porn. "The constant Cool of the women in the porn I have transferred to other women a bit. I have them more as objects gesehen", the Student remembers. For five years he tried not to look. But again and again it comes to relapse.
Therapist Heike Melzer knows that young men and women to wrestle after years of porn consumption in adulthood with problems. The topics: orgasm inhibition and Viagra already at a young age. "Sexuality is no longer with them, mostly with the Partner, but in Eigenregie", so the Heike Melzer. Porn and sex addiction – about 500,000 people are affected in Germany alone. "I would always say, better no porn schauen", Bernhard Stephan, " says;because it can end in an Addiction. I would not wish anyone to be there."
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